“Why do we women have to compare ourselves to each other and then shame?” A valid question posed by Jana Kramer that many of us moms probably ask all too often.
Kramer is probably most well known for her catchy country tunes and authentic podcast, “Whine Down with Jana Kramer.“
The wife and mom may be a celebrity, but she likes to get real, often sharing on her podcast about everyday life.
Kramer gave birth to her second child in November 2018 — a beautiful son named Jace Joseph. She and her husband Mike and their daughter Jolie Rae couldn’t look happier in the photos Kramer shared on Instagram.
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#Ad Brother, Sister, together as friends, ready to face whatever life sends. Joy & laughter or tears & strife, holding hands tightly as we dance through life (S. Huitt). We’re so blessed & Jolie is over the moon! The last few months would’ve been much harder without Bonjesta® (doxylamine succinate/pyridoxine HCl). It helped manage my #morningsickness when diet & lifestyle changes didn’t work. It’s a safe & effective new formulation of the drug combination I took before that’s made to work faster & longer. It isn’t known if Bonjesta is safe & effective in women with severe nausea & vomiting of pregnancy. Women with this condition may need hospitalization. Most common side effect is drowsiness. See full prescribing information at Bonjesta.com & watch my pregnancy journey. For US Residents Only. WHAT IS BONJESTA? ●Bonjesta is a prescription medicine used to treat nausea & vomiting of pregnancy (NVP) in women who haven’t improved with change in diet/other non-medicine treatments. ●It isn’t known if Bonjesta is safe & effective in women with severe NVP. Women with this condition may need hospitalization. ●It isn’t known if Bonjesta is safe & effective in children under 18. SELECT SAFETY INFORMATION DON’T TAKE BONJESTA IF YOU: ●are allergic to doxylamine succinate, other ethanolamine derivative antihistamines, pyridoxine HCl or any ingredients in Bonjesta (see Patient Information for list of ingredients); ● take monoamine oxidase inhibitors (MAOIs) (ask your healthcare provider or pharmacist if you aren’t sure if you take an MAOI). POSSIBLE SIDE EFFECTS ●The most common side effect of Bonjesta is drowsiness. ●Don’t drive, operate heavy machinery or do other activities that need your full attention unless your HCP says you can. ●Don’t drink alcohol, or take other CNS depressants such as cough & cold medicines, certain pain medicines & medicines that help you sleep while taking Bonjesta. Severe drowsiness can happen or become worse causing falls/accidents. ● Bonjesta may cause false positive urine drug screening test for methadone, opiates & PCP. Report negative side effects of prescription drugs to the FDA at www.fda.gov/medwatch or 1-800-FDA-1088.
But all that joy was, sadly, attacked when Kramer shared a photo of her postpartum body. In the photo, the post-c-section mom can be seen wearing form-fitting clothes.
She looks amazing! So full of life and light following to birth of her sweet baby boy. Which is why some of the comments she received on said photo are completely baffling.
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Several haters posted nasty comments, shaming Kramer for sharing a photo of herself in clothes that hugged her figure.
Thankfully, many other followers jumped in to back Kramer up, telling her she’s beautiful and encouraging her not to listen to the hate.
Kramer decided to share a response of her own in a separate post. The words she offered are sobering for any mom shamer out there.
“A few things because honestly I’m so frustrated and I need to vent this,” the 35-year-old wrote on Instagram.
Kramer went on to explain that she didn’t have a tummy tuck or a personal chef. “Our bodies are all beautiful and crafted differently,” she shared.
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A few things because honestly I’m so frustrated and I need to vent this. I wanted to post this photo (showing my stomach) because I wanted to show my journey back to healthy and my goodness I’m so glad I didn’t which is why this photo is now cropped. It’s amazing the comments and how rude some people can be from my last photo I took yesterday. A few things, no I didn’t get a tummy tuck, no I don’t have a personal chef, no I don’t have fortunes so I didn’t train everyday. Yes I had a c section, yes I am still in pain and on meds but I do have a high pain tolerance. I have had 3 stomach surgeries before this (appendix, gallbladder, and c section).. In that photo I had a belly bandit wrapped tightly, and high waisted pants and wow here I am defending myself. Why?!? If I would have posted the photo of my actual stomach in this photo I would have probably been shamed too even when I was wanting to be vulnerable with my journey. Why do we women have to compare ourselves to each other and then shame?. I say this to myself as much as I say this to y’all…why can’t it be that we are all different. Our bodies are all beautiful and crafted differently, they heal different, they react different, they simply look different. Why do we need to shame someone for not looking a certain way? Or feel bad about ourselves for looking a certain way? Can we be kinder to ourselves and know that every women has a different journey but yet we are all beautiful? Can we lift women up but not tear yourself down in the process with comparing? Let’s give that a try…..I love y’all. Back to my baby.
Well said. So much truth here. The best part was when she urged anyone reading to lift others up rather than tear them down.
“Can we be kinder to ourselves…?” she asked. I think we all ought to answer with a great big “Yes!” Let’s build one another up, shall we? Otherwise, as the old saying goes, “If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all.”
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