Here are a few things I don’t do every day amidst being a work at home, homeschooling mom of three: I do not go to the gym, I do not go to the gym, and I do not go to the gym.
Between sending my husband off to work and getting my kids started on their math lessons, trips to the gym just aren’t a reality for me.
Could I get up earlier? Maybe. But my infant son has a sixth sense when it comes to knowing when mom is out of bed.
Also, I work until 2 a.m. nearly every night (morning?) because the graveyard shift is really the only one that makes it so I can spend the day being mom.
While I may not be pumping iron every day, I do go on walks with my kids, I do try to be health conscious, and I do my best to well… do my best.
Any other moms out there relate? One fitness mom went viral several years back for a supposed “fat shaming” photo she shared of her fit body surrounded by her 3 young sons.
“What’s your excuse?” Maria Kang’s post asks. The image and the question it posed reportedly received a lot of backlash and Kang even had a post deleted from Facebook when she vented about obesity in America.
“I am banned from Facebook,” she wrote on her blog in 2013. Kang went on to share her frustrations about having a passion for health and fitness and having those passions contradicted by celebrations of the opposite.
“I’m not bashing those who are proud and overweight,” she said. “I am empowering those who are proud and healthy to come out and be the real role models in our society.”
It seems there’s a fine line between “shaming” those who struggle with weight and finding time for fitness and loving the bodies that we’re in.
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While Kang seems to have a passion for motivating individuals to take care of themselves and put health first, it’s understandable that some might take offense to her “no excuse” post.
In an interview with “The Doctors” in 2016, Kang had the opportunity to express her views and even shared that she too had struggled with weight gain and even depression in more recent years.
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“I did not realize the backlash that I would receive,” Kang shared, recalling that she had posted the photo in hopes it would be an inspiration to other moms.
But after all the backlash, years later, Kang retuned her thinking. While she still believes in making health and fitness a priority, she also takes her stance with a more empathetic viewpoint.
In the end, Kang seems to believe that moms should put themselves first, love their bodies, and love them enough to take care of them. She understands the excuses, but she also wants to motivate others to make their health a priority.
What do you think about Kang’s original “no excuse” photo? Do you find it offensive, or do you see it as motivating and inspiring?
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